“I think I live for Friday’s.”
I said this to Ryan as I got home from work one day last week.
“You and the rest of the world….”
Ok, he has a point, but there was a period of my life when I dreaded the downtime weekends promised because it gave me too many free seconds to think; feel guilty if I wasn’t cleaning and doing adult chores that are majorly boring but I guess pretty necessary when done on an as needed basis.
The whole concept of balance was something I had no idea how to practice. I felt like I was having a 7 day work week and I did not like it, at all.
But my misery, could and SHOULD have been avoided…
DOLCE FAIR NIENTE!
I don’t really speak Italian, but when I was reading Eat, Pray, Love a few years ago this phrase, and pretty much the entire chapter of Rome, completely captivated me.
The art of doing nothing…
What a beautiful concept!
And the Italian men in the barbershop that criticize Americans for not knowing how to embody this philosophy were exactly right if they were describing me…(and a million other people in this country!)
Sitting down, taking in the scenery, enjoying the moment…none of this was in my daily repertoire. Instead I was constantly stressed, always trying to please people, hating life, and feeling mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted.
Whenever Ryan and I would travel to Europe, I found brief segment of calm. I would usually have 7 days of serenity where I would embrace the essence of my being, take care of myself and appreciate my surroundings as if it were my last day on earth.
Granted, these weeks I was on vacation and did not have work or encounter the familial stressors that normally stare me in the face, but when I would observe the population within these countries; France, Spain, Croatia, Itlay…everyone seemed a lot happier than some of my colleagues and friends in the US.
I guess it is also a proven fact considering Forbe’s list of the top ten “Happiest Places in the World,” consists predomenantly of European nations. (No, the U.S. isn’t even on there…)
I am not saying, “MOVE TO EUROPE AND YOUR LIFE WILL BE CAREFREE AND FABULOUS!” (although I am sure a residency there would be nice…) But I am confirming that life is MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH better when “Dolce Fair Niente,” is applied.
This is as simple as scheduling in a little “me-time” on a weekly basis…aka, my weekends.
Personally, I know this means I enjoy one night out (preferably listening to some awesome music, surrounded by friends, and dancing the night away…) but then I like pretty much an entire day where I can be lazy, nap, eat left-overs, go to the farmers market or for frozen yogurt, live in sweat pants, chose to clean or not…
It is whatever I WANT to do at that current time.
Now I dread Mondays more than anything, and remind myself that in order to play hard, you also have to work hard.
La Dolce Vita!
Yes, life is sweet 🙂
Speaking of sweet…I do have a challenge for myself right now and that is to try a cupcake…my local friends do you have any suggestions as far as where to go or what kind to try?! No packaged grocery store kind will do! I want it to be DC Cupcakes style 😉