Being that it is Friday, the end to my work week and the start of a weekend, why not add some more perk to the morning with a few positives?!
As many readers pointed out yesterday, our minds are powerful devices and often reframing or “tricking” them into a new thought pattern can really lift a sour mood.
I have to say, I have some seriously smart commenters (not that I ever doubted this) because after focusing more on the good things about my day, or life in general, I really was back to my chatty and chipper-self.
So I was thinking it might be helpful for me to share some of their wisdom, and a few thoughts of my own, to assist in improving your outlook.
1. Tell yourself one thing you like about who you are as a person.
I guess you could also complement a physical attribute but I personally struggle with that so I decided to start my Thursday by appreciating that I have the ability to talk to anyone.
In my job I encounter ALL sorts of people; introverts, extroverts, a variety of races, classes, ethnicities, personalities, ages, etc.
Come to think of it, I have pretty much ALWAYS had a job in the customer service industry and I have prided myself on the fact that I did well in almost every single one. I think this is because I generally like being with people, and find it fascinating to hear their stories, learn their likes and dislikes, and connect on whatever level I could.
There have been so many individuals, who, regardless of how long we knew one another, or how close we were, have impacted my life in some way, shape or form. And sometimes a simple smile and “hello” to a stranger can have an effect and really doesn’t take much effort on my part, so I try to do these things whenever I can in order to maybe provide another individual some joy.
Plus, smiling is contagious and being around others who are happy is SO much nicer than those who are miserable…smiling may be contagious,but negativity is the WORST epidemic!
2. Wear something you like…wear something VIBRANT!
Not that tangible or material items are the most important things in the world, but let’s be serious, some new accessories, or hot off the mannequin ensembles can make a person feel a little more confident.
If you’re like me, you buy new clothes, and presuming the weather or occasion is appropriate, they have to be worn immediately!
Obviously you purchased the items because you liked them in some capacity, so of course they can make you a bit more comfortable in your skin…who doesn’t like to feel like they look nice?!
Now, since in recovery there is a bit of a caveat to this considering me and clothing are not always friends. Personally handbags, shoes and jewelry have been more of what makes me feel good lately, considering they are pretty much “one size fits all.”
So when I got an e-mail from My Freshwater Pearls the other afternoon, asking me to check out their products, I remembered my friend Lauren had recently reviewed them on her blog, and we pretty excited to take a closer look.
Pearls in general bring back some great memories for me because I got my first set from my Grandmother, Gram, when she gave them to me so we could match while making May Baskets and delivering them to her friends (she was a bit old-fashioned, but I am named after her so hung on her every word and move.) Whenever we were together, and would play dress up, or go on a fancy outing, we would always have our matching necklaces that made me feel so grown-up and mature.
As mature as a six-year-old can be, anyway…
I still have the delicate little strand that is a tad small for my adult neck, but they will always hold a special place in my heart.
And now that I am a grown-up I absolutely should have some new ones! The white variety looks so professionally chic and perfect for a power suit, or more modern look on the weekends.
Maybe even in the near future there will be a coupon code I can share, so you too can have something to show off…
Wouldn’t that be a great way to put some pizzaz in a day 😉
3. Change up your environment, or take a mini-break.
I would say 85% of my day is spent in my office, which can get seriously dull and make the time DRAG when my mind is being all negative and racing in a thousand different directions.
Yesterday, I was getting sick of staring at the computer writing checks so mid-morning I decided to grab my snack and take a little walk.
I didn’t go far, just around the quad area of the school, but I needed a ten minute interval where my phone didn’t ring, people werent asking for money, and something wasnt breaking down that was going to cost an arm and a leg to fix.
When I came back to my desk, the paper work was still there, the world did not end and I felt surprisingly rejuvenated.
Sometimes I think these little breathers can actually make a person MORE productive because they provide relaxation and a renewed motivation.
On a similar note…
4. Do something for YOU!
Just like my stroll, I started taking an official lunch.
I used to close my door and do work while nibbling, believing I didn’t really “deserve” to take THAT much time for myself, but lately I have been LOCKING my door, turning off the computer, savoring my eats and reading The Hunger Games.
I am currently on Mockingjay, which I won’t lie, is so far my LEAST favorite of the trilogy, but letting my mind drift to another place, is majorly therapeutic and I always find myself MUCH happier following my meal as compared to wickedly anxious and pissed off about my selections as I was in the past.
I am being totally predictable and repetitive here, but I swear this might be the best tip of all…
Yes you are probably tired of reading about looking at the glass half full, and I will be the first one to admit, it is WAY WAY WAY easier said than done.
Who wants to look at inflated legs and say “awesome, at least I still have my legs!” but you know, these legs allow me to do a whole heck of a lot…like explore Monticello last weekend, take care of my house, potentially run races again some day, play golf, etc.
My legs let me MOVE, which is important to me because I love to travel, see things, be free (ironic since I am so confined by ED sometimes…)
Them being swollen is just a reminder to me of how far I need to go. It is a sign to push through a few rainy days to get to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
Cheesy analogy, but it is true!!!
I often get down on myself and inpatient with how LONG recovery is taking, but ultimately I think the whole process will make me a better person.
I feel lucky that I have never endured any MAJOR hardships in my life and I think this is my test to give me endurance and character.
What does not kill us can only make us stronger, right?
Just try these things. Even if your day isn’t so bad, there is always room for improvement 🙂